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“Someone I Know is Having an Affair: Now What?” | The Redeemed Adulteress

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"Someone I know is having an affair. Rebecca, what do I do?" One of the more common questions I'm asked is what to do when someone you care about is having an affair. I applaud people who ask -- the courage it takes and the care it conveys. Because a lot of people screw this part up. When I was in my affair all those years ago, I experienced every type of reaction when is started confessing and...
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Former Other Woman Explains: What Would Make Someone Be Interested in a Married Man

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Given how publicly I've talked about how I was redeemed from being the "other woman" in a married man's affair, I periodically receive questions via Facebook. I appreciate when people ask (vs. assume) and I admire the courage to ask. Adultery is an important topic for us all to talk about (yes, among people of faith, too). Because I believe that talking leads to understanding that can: help proactively protect more marriages; and/or help more people...
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Former “Other Woman” Breaks Her Silence

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I never cease to be grieved and angered by the news of another affair. And not just when it's as blindsiding as the TerKeurst affair was to me. I hate adultery but hurt for the people involved. And I have good reason to. Which is why I won't stay silent about my own past: A decade ago this year, I was the "other woman" in a married man's affair. Yes, as a Christian. It's not something I set...
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1 Way to Recognize Bad Relationship Advice from Married Women

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When it comes to offering marriage advice to single women or other wives: Age (of the giver or her marriage) alone does not qualify her advice as good to take. That doesn't mean we rebel against good, godly advice, becoming hard-hearted or closed-eared and unteachable. It just means we become better at recognizing good advice when we hear it. So how can a younger wife or a not-yet-married woman tell if the advice being offered is good?...
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Former “Other Woman” Warns Adulteresses Everywhere

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Being the "other woman" in a married man's affair was one of the most powerful and painful experiences of my life so far. If, after looking at my photo, you're surprised -- that I don't "look like" someone who could have had an affair -- then you've seen too many of those cheesy made-for-TV movies. I don't own red lipstick. I don't live in lingerie. And I wasn't prowling for a married man when our 6-month relationship began....
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Since I Cheated, Will I Be Cheated On?

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This morning, I woke up to a great question from a Facebook follower: So how about it? Since I've been the "other woman" in a married man's affair. . . . . .is marriage no longer in God's "cards" for my life? Or. . . . . .am I destined (doomed, more like it) to have an "other woman" affect my future marriage? Here's my answer: 0 Rebecca Halton is the author of Words from the Other...
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When NOT to Buy My Book Words from the Other Woman

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Authors often want or need as many people to buy their book as possible. But I don't want everyone to buy my book Words from the Other Woman... ...why?! Because some people will actually use it as what I call  "a 10-foot pole." Here's what I mean: One of the more common questions I get asked, is how to deal with or help someone in an affair. Or, perhaps on the verge of one. And sometimes --...
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Forgiving Yourself: 3 Things You Need to Know

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With love in her eyes, a new friend explained: "She's having trouble forgiving herself." I understood all too well: Years ago, I learned to forgive myself -- no, receive God's forgiveness of me and let Jesus' ransom be enough -- for being in an affair with a married man. I know how hard it can feel. It's not "logical," to be forgiven for something that the world may say is unforgivable. BUT GOD. The good news is that God sees you...
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Former “Other Woman” Reacts to Lysa TerKeurst’s Marriage News

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I was in a coffee shop waiting for a friend, when I saw Lysa TerKeurst's marriage news: I gasped and resisted the urge to sob (in public). In the post, she revealed that her husband of almost 25 years has been having an affair with a woman he met online. In what was no doubt a thoughtful, thorough, and difficult decision, Lysa has decided to seek a divorce. (She elaborates on her journey to the...
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