When NOT to Buy My Book Words from the Other Woman

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Authors often want or need as many people to buy their book as possible. But I don't want everyone to buy my book Words from the Other Woman... ...why?! Because some people will actually use it as what I call  "a 10-foot pole." Here's what I mean: One of the more common questions I get asked, is how to deal with or help someone in an affair. Or, perhaps on the verge of one. And sometimes --...
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YIKES: Why I Kicked Candles Out of My Writing Space

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Burning candles or incense could be as hazardous to your wellness as smoking at least one cigarette per hour. This is why I switched to this candle alternative in my writing space -- namely, one in particular (below). I don't smoke cigarettes (I have tried them in the past, and thankfully, they didn't "stick"). So why would I want to invite the same effects into my home and writing space? This is why I stopped using...
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10 Things to Know: How to Start Writing a Book

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No matter who it is or where they're from, each aspiring author's question usually goes something like this: "Ok, I want to start working on this book but I'm feeling overwhelmed. I don't know where to begin. Do you have any tips for me?" (That's an actual quote from a friend's text yesterday.) Why are they asking me? For those who don't know me well, here's some backstory for why they would even be asking...
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Becoming a Writer: Where to Start

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If you dream of becoming a writer, author, and/or blogger, I have great news: It’s more possible than ever to write what you want, write when you want, and write where you want. But where do you begin? All of the possibilities (and technologies) can be overwhelming, right? You’re not alone. One of the most common questions I’m asked about becoming a writer is: “Where do I start?” First, let’s level set: I’m not going…

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Essential Oils for Writing: My Top 2

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2 of My Fave Essential Oils for Writing Burnt out, diagnosed with a chronic illness, and grasping for a lost joy for writing... ...I learned a hard truth in the past 5 years: You cannot write well if you don't feel well. For me, that meant evaluating lifestyle choices and habits that were actually making it harder to write the way I once loved. Then I started to learn about the role that toxins and chemicals play...
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A Year Since You (aka So, About That Breakup)

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If we — you and I, reader — have been connected for more than a year now, then you may recall that I was dating someone early last year. I “suddenly” stopped talking or posting about the relationship… …because a year ago today, he unexpectedly asked me for a 6-month break. Which, I agreed to and honored. I didn’t date anyone else in that time. I dove deeper into my own healing. (Most notably, recovery from…

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Writing Your Testimony: 4 of My Top Tips

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One of the possibilities that was farthest from my mind in late 2006 and early 2007, was that I would one day write my testimony of having overcome an affair. (You can read the entire first chapter here, for free.) At that time, I was just trying to keep my head above water. I was drowning in the sin and trying to make my way out of the mess I’d helped make. In fact, it…

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Forgiving Yourself: 3 Things You Need to Know

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With love in her eyes, a new friend explained: "She's having trouble forgiving herself." I understood all too well: Years ago, I learned to forgive myself -- no, receive God's forgiveness of me and let Jesus' ransom be enough -- for being in an affair with a married man. I know how hard it can feel. It's not "logical," to be forgiven for something that the world may say is unforgivable. BUT GOD. The good news is that God sees you...
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Ladies: Don’t Make This Hair Removal Mistake

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I made this hair removal mistake for years. I’m speaking up about this personal issue, in the hopes that it helps you or a woman you care about. Starting in my early 20s, I began sprouting dark facial hairs. And, being that I have fair skin and dark hair, they were pretty noticeable. It didn’t seem normal — but wasn’t alarming, either. I mentioned it at an annual exam, only to have my gynecologist chalk…

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Confession: I’m ‘Offended’ by My Young Living Business

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I stood at a comfortable distance, searching my own thoughts: C’mon. I could have already gone over and been done by now—let’s go. You know how life-changing this business is; just think of how this could help them, I pepped in my own thoughts. But I felt stuck and grasped for a good excuse to not talk to them. Stuck in the sludge of self-limiting thoughts and fears, like: I dunno: Do they really look like “the…

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